Last night I had coffee with a coach who I respect and admire much. He is a guy who does things the right way – he really cares about his kids and always has their best interest in mind. He is selfless and uses lacrosse to teach life.
As we talked, the topic came up of failure. How do you create an environment where failure is not only accepted but encouraged? When players fail it is usually because they pushed themselves to their limit. This is where growth happens. Where players find out about themselves, their ability to preserver and improve and that failure does not really hurt as much as they thought. It is also, where you have the opportunity to teach and mentor. WIthout failure there is no success.
Encourage your kids to fail. Create an environment where kids feel safe and have the ability to reach their full potential as people and as players.
Let me leave you with one of my favorite quotes about failure –
“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood, who strives valiantly; who errs and comes short again and again; because there is not effort without error and shortcomings; but who does actually strive to do the deed; who knows the great enthusiasm, the great devotion, who spends himself in a worthy cause, who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement and who at the worst, if he fails, at least he fails while daring greatly. So that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who know neither victory nor defeat.”