Posted: May 28, 2015 in Uncategorized
Yesterday I received a letter from a young lacrosse player who said he used to read my original blog for ESPN and it got me thinking. It has been a long while since I wrote on this blog, just about 3 years since my last post. I couldn’t remember my login and was clueless on my password (it happened to be one of my 2 passwords I use for my entire life. If you get your hands on either of them you could high jack my twitter handle and FB page, contact my friends and pretend I was robbed in (insert country of choice here) and tell all my friends they need to wire me (you) a couple thousand dollars to save my life). Why did I stop writing? Life got busy, other things became priorities, I got lazy, I do not know, I just stopped blogging. I am sure we all have things we started and for one reason or another abandoned a long the way, some we should have and some we should not have.
As I sit here and write this I know that I should not have stopped writing. Not that I have a huge fan base or that people are sitting around waiting to hear what I have to say or that public policy hinges on the words that I type. I should not have stopped writing because writing is good for my soul. It gives me time to reflect and to center, to remember what is truly important and what I want my life to stand for, how I want to treat other people and the core values I want to pass down to my son. It allows me to make time in a world that constantly wants to take time. All our time is filled. Filled with worthless pictures and tweets and tv shows and vines and posts and snaps. People are glued to phones and the mind is constantly distracted. I need focus. I need less meaningless and more meaningful.
So if there is something that you should be doing that you are not, something that helps you gain clarity and purpose, my hope is that you pursue it. Go after it tenaciously. Regardless of how long it has been or the stage of life you currently find yourself in, just do it.
Don’t let a week turn into 3 years.
Posted: May 22, 2012 in Interview Series
In the first edition of the interview series, I sit down with MLL All Star Chazz Woodson to talk about his philosophy as a player and a leader.
Posted: March 12, 2012 in Coaching, Philosophy
The other team starts to gain momentum, a quick goal followed by another and then another and then another, with no answer from your squad. You have gone from man to zone defense, you have changed your offensive sets, you’ve tried every other adjustment you can think of. And then your coach calls a timeout. You once again take to the field, but things have changed. The momentum has been impeded and your team has a renewed sense of confidence and direction.
Great coaches know when to call a timeout. They know when the team needs to take a step back, regroup and refocus. There are times in our lives when life is pouring it on and things are getting out of hand. Recognize when you need to slow down and center yourself.
Be a good coach and know when to call a timeout.
Posted: March 8, 2012 in Philosophy
Is anyone else tired of hearing about personal branding? I learned about it in school, I read about in blogs and articles, I hear people speak of it often. The concept is everywhere in our society, but for those of you who are not familiar with the idea of personal branding, below is the definition sniped from Wikipedia.
Personal branding is, for some people, a description of the process whereby people and their careers are marked as brands. It has been noted that while previous self-help management techniques were about self-improvement, the personal branding concept suggests instead that success comes from self-packaging.
I abhor the idea of people becoming a product; packaging and peddling themselves to the world as someone they are not for money, status, friends and other personal gain. In a culture that is overrun with marketing and sales pitches, the last thing we should be doing is selling ourselves, which completely cheapens who we are and who we are intended to be. The fact that personal branding is taught, practiced, and encouraged is disheartening for me. How did we get so lost that we stopped focusing on who we truly are and started focusing on what others want us to be? We are not products, we have hearts, emotions, minds and souls that have been created for a higher purpose and meaning. Turn off your electronics, have a conversation with someone and look them in the eyes and you will see the inescapable fact that people are truly more than a commodity. We are all unique, we are all different, and we all have value on which you cannot put a price tag.
I will leave you with a few meaningful lyrics from David Gray’s song “Shine”. May you never compromise your soul, because in the end, we are much more than products: we are people.
For all that we struggle
For all we pretend
It don’t come down to nothing
Except love in the end
And ours is a road
That is strewn with goodbyes
But as it unfolds
As it all unwinds
Remember your soul is the one thing
You just can’t compromise
Take my hand
We’re gonna go where we can shine
Posted: February 13, 2012 in Philosophy
The 100% Rule says that adhering to personal convictions 100% of the time is much easier than doing it 99% of the time. The rule is simple in theory yet extremely difficult in practice. For example – let’s say you decide that smoking is unhealthy and a habit you never want to take up. The 100% Rule says that you will have a greater chance of never habitually smoking if you can avoid lighting that first cigarette. I know that this statement is beyond obvious. Could you have just one cigarette and not become a chain smoker? Absolutely, but breaking a personal conviction even just once is a slippery slope. Holding firm only 99% of the time can quickly turn to 95%, which can turn to 50% and on and on until something that you set out to avoid has now become a habit.
Anyone who has broken a diet, a New Year’s resolution, or struggled with an addiction of any kind can attest to this rule. Everyone can attest to this rule. We often tell ourselves “just this one time” or “there is no way I could go the rest of my life without ever doing (insert habit here) again.” What we need to focus on getting through that moment only. When the next obstacle arrises, and we all know it will, we will deal with it then. Moment by moment is how we overcome.
I hope that you find the inner strength to adhere to your personal convictions 100% of time and when your convictions are being challenged, may you focus on only the moment.
Posted: January 30, 2012 in Philosophy
“At any rate it seems that I am wiser than he is to this small extent, that I do not think that I know what I do not know.” – Socrates [Apology 21d]
One of the hardest things for many people is to admit that they don’t know what they don’t know. Do you remember sitting in a classroom and your teacher concludes the lecture with, “Does everyone understand? Are there any questions?” You have questions, but you don’t ask. No one else’s hand goes up, so you think you must have missed something and you don’t want to be the only one that didn’t get it. Five minutes later you find yourself in the hall talking with your classmates only to find out they had questions as well, but were too scared to ask. This scenario plays out on sports fields, in the workplace and just about everywhere. For many people it is a humbling experience to realize that they do not know something. But once we admit that we don’t know everything and start asking questions something magical happens – we learn, we grow, we improve.
Once you determine that there is no shame in asking questions, where do you go to get questions answered? Who should you learn from, who should you ask? For me, the first place and last place I go is to someone who has actual experience. The age old adage that experience is the best teacher is absolutely true. There is a lot to be said about someone who has walked and lived in an area of life in which you want to learn and grow. I respect people who have done it and I seek out those who walk the walk for advice!
There is a lot of value in learning from people who have actually done it…